So, What Was the Question?

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Vesper Martini (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The top three answers in a survey by the newly off the presses “livehappy” magazine were:

1. Be present.

2. Make, bring, or share food!

3. Do something unexpected.

I love all three of these answers and they pretty well cover the elements of a happy life. The question that elicited these responses was “How would you make others happy during the holidays”, but I would like to put forth the theory that these three answers are the solution to that question that has bugged all of us sometime in our lives and that is: “What is the point?”

The point is to be here and now and understand that that is all you really have and you should make the best of it. Food is almost always a good answer to any question—whether the delicacies be indulgent, or healthy, or both. Food provides nourishment, comfort, and if is a chocolate cake–happiness.

 And the third answer? That is the one that keeps us on our toes. The unexpected shakes things up—that is why ‘Bond, James Bond’, always wanted his drink “shaken, not stirred”. He knew that stirred would probably produce a better drink—but he wanted something more and stirring was just not exhilarating enough. Think about the whole process—to shake a drink you create drama, while stirring neither inflames or inspires—it merely gets the job done. (I read somewhere that shaking your drink does not result in a better drink; stirring does—but stirring brings to mind a double double not a *martini—which is much more cosmopolitan.) I think I may have wrung this metaphor (or whatever it is I am trying to express) dry. (Pun intended).

Anyway, back to the point—what is your answer to “How would you make others happy (and yourself) during the holidays? We are allowed to be a little self-indulgent at this time of year, don’t you think?

·        For the erudite: It was in the movie Casino Royale in 1953, that Bond orders “Three measures of Gordon’s, one of vodka, half a measure of Kina Lillet. Shake it very well until it’s ice-cold, then add a large thin slice of lemon peel.” (Wikipedia)

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  1. With all the crazy rush leading up to the holidays I think it’s important to make sure we take time once they arrive to sit and relax with family and friends and enjoy each other’s company :). That’s what it should be all about! Amd if course that also includes eating large quantities of food!!

  2. Give people space…give them grace…and give them permission to feel whatever the heck they need to feel during these emotionally (and physically) frenetic times.

    • I like your answer space and grace and permission to feel what they feel

      • 🙂

  3. A family sing song.. my dream..;)

    • when I was a little girl we had family sing songs–rarely but I remember them fondly

      • a great memory to have and cherish… 😉

      • I hope your dream comes true……

  4. To make ‘others’ happy …for family just share what’s going on in their lives and to be part of their Christmas .. for non-family I try to share what I can with as many as I can.. in food, gifts and monetary to help make their Christmas a little better and to say that others do care…. Diane

  5. Great post, Lou Ann! I agree that living by those three points makes life better any time of the year. Thanks for the reminder! I also like the first two comments… especially “space, grace and permission to feel.” There are many for whom the holiday season is a very difficult time and we need to remember to give them those gifts.

    • yes, if we are not up to feeling merry and bright–we should be given the space and grace to feel the way we really feel and not have to put on a mask

  6. I love the first one. In a society where so many people are “multi-tasking” and looking at their phones so much of the time, I think giving someone your undivided attention is maybe the best gift of all.

  7. I would sum it up in one word: indulge. Though it usually is associated with food, I think it can be applied to anything. Towards time, towards relaxation, towards just doing whatever it does that makes you happy without feeling guilty.
    Also, I always appreciate your puns. Just thought you should know. 🙂

    • thank you — I read your post and it made me sad for you–so sorry about your loss–and I agree with you–indulge is a good word–especially in the ways you have defined it

      • I appreciate the sentiments, thank you. Some fine indulging really is in order this season.

      • ((((hugs))))

  8. If all goes well – a few of us in the fam will be Christmas caroling this year. It will be the first time that we do this & none of us can sing. I hope it goes trough. Last year was a maybe & then schedules conflicted so it didn’t happen.
    Fa la la la la, la la la la…

    • who needs to know how to sing to go caroling–not I–I love to sing but cannot do it very well–

  9. This is a thought provoking post for sure. I think if I am genuinely relaxed and smiling others around me will be happy too. It’s so easy to let the pressures of the holiday put a frown on things, but thanks to your post, I plan to enjoy! And somehow I know the enjoyment will be catchy.

    • you are so right that enjoyment is catchy–I will try to put a smile on my face more too

  10. Just finished my semester. I would love to indulge in some slowing down, peace and quiet. I crave stillness.

    That and a whole lotta cooking and baking and laughter with family/friends

    Pure simple ness.

    • Pure simple mess–sounds like a wonderful perscription for Christmas–glad you will have a little time to yourself and with family and friends

      • Good morning friend 🙂

      • Let’s make it a good morning–sometimes you have to push the envelope…………

      • Ahhh shred the envelope. It’s probably a bill anyways. Then enjoy your day with coffee and chocolate.

      • excellent advice–coffee and chocolate are great healers

  11. Give the your time, your ear and your gratitude.

  12. Being kind, smiling, and gladly letting cars coming in from the off ramps merge in front of me.

  13. It’s so easy to get stuck in routines. To shake ’em up sounds like the answer to me!

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