A Penny for your thoughts…..


Just listened to a Ted Talk and the fellow speaking meandered around his subject for about 17 minutes  before he  finally got down to the essence of his message:  Who we are is ever-changing—we do not stop growing, and we are not static. And we should find this very freeing.

I love this message—we are not who we were ten years ago, ten days ago, or even ten minutes ago. We are ever-evolving and have the ability to change. We are not stagnate pond scum drowning in a puddle created by the ruts of life.

Humans are dynamic beings, and as such we can become today something we were not yesterday. We can leave days of apathy and lethargy in the dust and create from these ashes something that kills soul defying ennui.

I have been guilty of accepting my shortcomings as something I have to live with the rest of my life, but I rail at labels tossed my way that do not fit now, labels I have cast off and are no longer part of me. There are some things true to my essence that are valuable; things I do not want to discard, but there are also aspects of earlier personalities that have grown up, expanded, and hopefully will continue to develop.

Have you ever felt that you are now a square peg but others are still trying to fit you into a round hole?

Published in: on February 12, 2014 at 6:58 pm  Comments (22)  
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I Feel Better Now

A friend sent me this email this morning. It made me feel so much better. I thought I would pass it along to you and hopefully it will make you feel better too!

Ever walk into a room with some purpose in mind, only to completely forget what that purpose was? Turns out, doors themselves are to blame for these strange memory lapses.

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Psychologists at the University of Notre Dame have discovered that passing through a doorway triggers what’s known as an event boundary in the mind, separating one set of thoughts and memories from the next.

Your brain files away the thoughts you had in the previous room and prepares a blank slate for the new locale.

So it’s not aging, it’s the damn door!

Thank goodness for scientific studies like this!

Are you like me and go back to the previous room where the thought originated to recover it?

Published in: on July 14, 2013 at 1:39 pm  Comments (65)  
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You Are Not Alone

“I feel like I’m not alone,” some of those who wrote me said, and the sentiment changed my life. That’s what’s so wonderful about reading, that poetry and essays make us feel as though we’re connected, as though the thoughts and feelings we believe are singular and sometimes nutty are shared by others, and we are more alike than different.”  ~ Anna Quindlen from “Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake”

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It is exactly this feeling, that you are reaching others, that you are not alone, that we are more alike than different that keeps both Quindlen (who is admittedly a bit more successful than I, being  a Pulitzer prize winner and all) and I writing.

The best writing I have read is something that hits a note with me. Something that resonates. Something that says what I have been thinking. Something that make me part of the world, not apart from it. And that is the kind of writing I strive to do. On a much more limited basis, I have had people tell me that they could identify with the words I have written, that my words made them smile and recognize that they are not alone.

I guess on some level, writing gives me power. Power to communicate what I cannot communicate well out loud. I say often that it gives my lonely voice in the wilderness a place to vocalize.

Bliss is feeling a part of something; something that penetrates the aloneness. What do you think?

Published in: on May 26, 2013 at 12:56 pm  Comments (36)  
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