That Way Lies Madness

“Trust people to be who they are, and not who you want them to be.”
~ Richard Templar

The “period during which we function” known more familiarly as life, is full of contradictions. Richard Templar, author of “The Rules to Break” illustrates this clearly in his book. His Rule number 83 says: “Trust everybody”, while Rule number 84 on the very next page states unequivocally: “Trust no one.”

Confusing? On the surface, yes, but once he explains his concepts it makes sense. He theorizes that, “Trust is a wonderful feeling, with all the love and security it brings, so why deny yourself? That way lies madness.” And who in their right mind would choose madness (although I have often thought of it as an interesting alternative to sanity.) But on the next page of his book, he says, “…I can contradict myself if I like”, telling us that “Trust is a personal thing, and it has a lot to do with nuances and intuition about the person in question. Trust people to be who they are, and not who you want them to be.”

Templar argues that “The fact is that you must be a trusting person in order to feel at ease with yourself and life” BUT, and this should be the underlying advice to anyone who takes on life as a hobby: “…there’s no need to be stupid about it.” He says that he has friends that he would trust with his life, but he would not “necessarily let them look after my cat.”

What is a contradiction? On one hand contradictions can be ambiguities and paradoxes; on the darker side, they can be inconsistent and illogical. Ambiguities are hard to define in that they express uncertainty—or “something that can be understood in more than one way”. Paradoxes are enigmatic, puzzling, even mystical. They can readily be defined by one of my favourite sayings: “It is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.” Inconsistency and things that are not logical are harder to contend with and make trust all that more difficult.

Templar is right on both counts—but I can simplify his wisdom down to a few words: Trust, but don’t be stupid about it.

Published in: on October 2, 2014 at 3:46 pm  Comments (17)  
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One of Those Days I Should Have Just Phoned It In

English: Sotby phone box. These old red boxes ...

English: Sotby phone box. These old red boxes are becoming a rarity these days – one of the TELEPHONE panels has been put in back-to-front and upside-down. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Michelle’s prompt for the day: “If you were forced to give up one sense, but gain super-sensitivity in another, which senses would you choose?”

Taste. Hearing. Seeing. Smelling. What the heck is the other sense? Oh yeah, touch.

I would not voluntarily give up a sense but if I were being tortured I would consider giving up the one I could not remember—touch—though I would most certainly miss it. If I did give up touch though, would that mean I would never again be bothered by scratchy labels? Touch though is a touchy subject—would I not feel hugs or register kisses? Giving up touch would be, on second thought, a hardship that the super-sensitivity of another sense would not make up for.

Sight. Never. I need to see and read and watch and measure and observe.

Hearing. I need to hear the voices of my loved ones. I need to hear to make conversation. I need to hear!

Taste. Well, what would be the use of eating? I guess we are supposed to eat to live, not live to eat—but that takes it to a whole new level.

Smell. Can you imagine not smelling the stuffing of a turkey ever again? Or cinnamon buns. Or the pungency of onions and garlic?

Okay so I would give up my sense of intuition, as it does me more harm than good, as I do not recognize it anyway—or give it credit.

So there you have it—no intuition. I would trade it for super-sensitivity in seeing, as then I could discard my glasses and near blindness without having to wear contacts.

This was a silly prompt—and a silly response to the prompt. I would get my money back if I were you.

Published in: on September 16, 2013 at 5:57 pm  Comments (25)  
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