As The Trees Bud (take off of As The World Turns)

Remember that famous Barbara Walters’ query she is rumoured to have posed to many of the celebrities she interviewed back in the 1980’s? I believe it was: “If you were a tree, what tree would you be?” And we all kind of thought she was wacky? Well it turns out Barbara may have been onto something. Though the real story of the question is a bit different than the lore, the legend lives on. Not to burst your bubble, but according to Cynthia Littleton in Variety, Walters apparently asked Katherine Hepburn what kind of tree she would be, after Hepburn “described herself as feeling like a very strong tree”. Hepburn’s reply was that she would “prefer to be an oak rather than an elm to avoid Dutch elm disease.”

Barbara’s alleged question came to mind this morning after reading something a friend posted on Facebook this morning. It is a response from Ram Dass, the famous American Spiritual teacher and author of “Be Here Now” to a question he received about judgment, self and otherwise. He provided a little parable in reply, which makes up the powerful quote that follows:

“….when you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You appreciate it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying “You’re too this, or I’m too this.” That judging mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are…”

So, whether Barbara really asked the question or not, she should have. We do accept trees for what they are, whether they be spindly and weak, bent and misshapen, or strong and sturdy. Why don’t we appreciate people for what they are? Or for that matter, ourselves? As Ram Dass says: “You just allow it.” Allow, accept and permit: so easy in theory; so hard in practice.

In her poem, “If I Were A Tree”, Pamela Lutwyche partially answers Barbara’s rumoured question in her first three stanzas:

If I were a tree,
and someone made a swing on me,
I would enjoy their laughter./
I’d be big and strong
and help the day move along,
I would help the people breathe fresh air./
Birds could build their nests in my branches,
my leaves would be green and healthy./
Birds could lay their eggs
and new life would begin.

The poet does not answer the question of what kind of a tree she would be, just that if she were a tree, she would provide laughter, fresh air, a home to new life, and a new beginning. What more could one ask of a tree?

If I were a tree, I would choose to be a tall, strong coniferous, perched proudly on someone’s front lawn. I would be decorated at Christmas but never in danger of being cut down to grace a living room because I would be a crucial part of the landscaping of the homeowner’s property.

No article on trees would be complete without Joyce Kilmer’s 1913 poem called simply enough:

I think that I shall never see
A poem as lovely as a tree./
A tree whose hungry mouth is prest
Against the earth’s sweet flowing breast;/
A tree that looks at God all day,
And lifts her leafy arms to pray/
A tree that may in Summer wear
A nest of robins in her hair;/
Upon who bosom snow has lain
Who intimately lives with rain/
Poems are made by fools like me,
But only God can make a tree.

(Poems provided in honour of April: official poetry month)

Okay–you know I am going to ask it: If you were a tree, what tree would you be?

Published in: on April 15, 2015 at 2:42 pm  Comments (34)  
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I step quietly from my bed

on thehomefrontandbeyond:

do not rise frantic and full of concern during the innocence of dawn…..

Originally posted on Live & Learn:


I have risen early. Far in the distance, a faint glow paints the horizon. Dawn is coming, gently and full of prayer. I step quietly from my bed, alive to the silences around me. This is the quiet time, the time of innocence and soft thoughts, the childhood of the day. Now is the moment when I must pause and life my heart – now, before the day fragments and my consciousness shatters into a thousand pieces. For this is the moment when the senses are most alive, when a thought, a touch, a piece of music can shape the spirit and color of the day. But if I am not careful – if I rise, frantic, from my bed, full of small concerns- the mystical flow of the imagination at rest will be broken, the past and the future will rush in to claim my mind, and I will be…

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A Haiku in Syllables Only

Someone once told me

Life is a series of losses

I want to find them.

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Break in Routine

This may explain my absence of late. It is a column I wrote for the paper I work for–the Kingsville Reporter:

It is in routine that we find sanity. My morning routine varies only in the way, the manner, the order I do things, not in the things I do. I wake up, check my bedside clock, and if it is any time after 5 a.m. I turn on the light that stands guard and dark during the night. I swing my legs out of bed, and now that I am a bit more creaky, I make sure that my right knee is ready for the weight of the day. Depending on how it feels, I hobble or when I am lucky, walk to the bathroom, after donning my housecoat. Minor ablutions done I go back to my room, grab my cell phone (which is a new addition to the routine), turn off my bedroom light and use the flashlight app to go down the stairs, so I will not wake up my son who is asleep in his corner room.

As I open the door to the downstairs, the cat greets me with a high purr—more like a chirp and he swirls around my legs as I make my way to the kitchen. Sometimes on the way, I veer off my path ever so slightly and turn on my laptop so it is ready for me after I finish my other little chores—the first of which is to feed the cat. He waits anxiously as I fill his dish—first with his dry food, then with a dollop of turkey and kidneys, or chicken pate, or beef chunks. Kitty Bob does not eat just dry food—he is really quite a connoisseur.

Only after the cat is happily crunching away do I make the coffee. Some days I have to rinse out the glass carafe, and then empty out the grounds; other days the coffee machine is clean and ready to go. I go with the flow. I fill it up, usually making 8-10 cups, then get out the number 4 filter and crease it so it fits into its magic chamber. Then I count out the spoonfuls of coffee. Sometimes I am thinking of something else and get lost in my counting—so I pour the coffee back into its container and start over. Some mornings I get it right the first time; sometimes it takes me three tries.

Usually as the coffee goes through I check out my email and Facebook and twitter, and now instagram to get an idea of what is going on in the lives of my friends and family. On Monday mornings, if I have not been a good girl and written my column I start to write (this is one of those mornings). When I hear that the coffee has run through and awaiting me—I leave… (this is me leaving)………….

I pour two cups of coffee and navigate my way to the living room—leaving one on the coffee table for my husband and mine on the table beside my red chair. Usually I watch a little CBC and GMA, and read the daily paper, but this morning the paper has not come yet, so I return to my laptop and this column with coffee in hand.

I am thinking of breaking this routine—as watching television news in the morning can be unsettling—but I have not done it yet. My routine though will be broken at the end of the week because of something that happened over the weekend. Something unspeakable. Yet I find I must speak of it. I do not want it to be a footnote to this column, but I am not ready to fully embrace the wholeness of it yet.

My brother John, who lived in our lovely town for almost 30 years, has gone on, for lack of a better term, to a “better” place. I have faith that he has not been lost to the ether, but that he is in that other dimension we, on this earth, are not privy too. I am beyond sad. Grief is such a personal thing—I find it comes in waves—sometimes with a little anger thrown into the mix; sometimes tears. I am trying for the life of me to think of ways that I made his life better—but I can only come up with ways he made mine better—from teaching me how to skate when I was little, to tutoring me in math. To inspiring me to become a writer (admittedly of sorts), and to encouraging me to go to university. All along the way, he was my mentor. We talked books and philosophy and family. He was curious and smart, devilishly clever, a husband, a father, a grandfather, a friend and a brother—and now again as a son, I imagine him back in the fold with my parents.

I comfort myself in the routine. It is in routine that I find sanity.

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Now. Now.

on thehomefrontandbeyond:

okay, I will start now………

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As Robert Frost once wrote, “A poem begins as a lump in the throat, a sense of wrong, a homesickness, a lovesickness. It is never a thought to begin with.”

I recommend the following course of action for those, like you, who are just starting out, or who, like me, may be re-configuring midway through. Heed the words of Robert Frost. Start with a big fat lump in your throat. Start with a profound sense of wrong, a deep homesickness, a crazy lovesickness, and run with it. If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve. Do what you love. And don’t stop until you get what you love. Work as hard as you can. Imagine immensities. Don’t compromise and don’t waste time. In order to strive for a remarkable life, you have to decide that you want one. Start now. Not twenty years from now. Not thirty…

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Early spring snowfall
Admittedly beautiful
Fairyland amok.

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The Divine

Prosaic poetry
Turns banal into inspiring
Evoking hidden magic
In the baking powder

A tea canister
Holds warmth and comfort
Loosened by
Boiling water

Crusty French bread
Lathered in real butter
Heaven bursts forth
On the tongue

Lunch with friends
Or a favourite sister ~
Time stands still, waits
Leaving a crumpled napkin

Life delights
If you do not think about it too hard.

Nonsense makes sense
If you wait long enough ~

Published in: on March 25, 2015 at 10:14 am  Comments (16)  

Tit for Tat

The silence of the day
Broken by an errant car horn ~
The quiet of the morning
Splintered by a dog barking ~
The peaceful beginning
Violated by a hurly burly bustling day.

Convivial conversation breaks the evening gloom
Shared food revives the spirit
Then ~
Respite comes at the end of the day:
A glass of wine, a good book, silence restored.

Published in: on March 24, 2015 at 12:15 pm  Comments (19)  

Eat the COOKIE!

This week’s newspaper column (and if you are wondering, Ruthven is near my hometown):

Question: What do you call a story about a broken pencil?
Answer: Pointless

Most scribes fight against “broken pencil syndrome”. To have an article, a column, an essay or a book deemed pointless (useless, futile, meaningless, stupid, inane, needless or worthless) is a cut that does not heal. We combat this by trying to be topical, interesting, current, and sometimes an advocate on the side of the devil just to make things a bit more stimulating. I have oft been told that I err on the side of the angels, but so be it. I can be downright curmudgeonly, but I choose not to be (for the most part) in this column.

The source of my opening “quote” is the Reader’s Digest, a magazine I much maligned in my younger days for no reason other than that someone once made the remark that while the contents were not drivel, they were also not cutting edge. I now disagree with that assessment, not only because my oldest brother gifted me a subscription to the 5” x 7” tiny tome for Christmas, but because I really enjoy the articles and funny and thoughtful tidbits throughout.

In the latest edition I read with some interest an article called “36 Questions to Love By”; “The 2015 Trust Poll Winners”; “Body of Evidence”; “It’s Funny What You Remember”; “Gone Strolling”; and “13 Things You Should Know About Breaking Bad Habits.” And that is only about half of the titles that appeal to me. I learned a lot in those few articles—and found them stimulating and entertaining. None were pointless.

“36 Questions to Love By”, written by Mandy Len Catron tells the story of her experiment with social psychologist, Arthur Aron’s supposition that he could make two strangers fall in love, first by answering 36 questions, then staring into the eyes of the object of your affection for 3 minutes. Mandy called the exercise “accelerated intimacy” and admitted that she and her acquaintance did fall in love, but concluded: “Love didn’t happen to us. We’re in love because we each made the choice to be.” I think that the experiment though did “generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive.”

Who Are Canada’s most trusted influencers? The 2015 Trust Poll Winners counted down the top 20 movers, shakers and opinion makers chosen by Canadians. David Suzuki (who just happens to hail from Ruthven originally) was number one, and Galen Weston (of President’s Choice Loblaw’s fame) was number 20. Only 5 of the twenty were women, so I would say we have a little work to do there. I was surprised and pleased to see airwaves (both radio and TV) personality Marilyn Dennis as number 19, but as they explained, she has been doing her business for over 30 years and “spends more hours engaging the public than most people spend talking to their spouses or children.”

Respected author Jane Smiley penned “It’s Funny What You Remember” about catching up with a classmate she had not seen for over 40 years. She was surprised about what he remembered about her, but more surprised by what he did not know. She made this observation which is very telling: “…most of your life is hidden from people you see day after day…”

In the “13 Things You Should Know About Breaking Bad Habits”, I came across one that I found gasp-inducing. Luc Rinaldi, the author of the article noted in number 12 that: “Draining your energy by kicking one habit can make others more tempting. Case in point: a 2012 study in The Journal of Social Psychology showed that people in relationships were more likely to be unfaithful after resisting a plate of freshly baked cookies.” I am with Cookie Monster here when I say we should all adhere to his advice: “EAT THE COOKIE!”

I am an avid supporter of magazines and books and newspapers. And while I read online via my computer and my newly minted cell phone (yes, I am finally in the 21st century), and I have a kobo, I still love the feel of a book, a mag, or newspaper in my hands. They are solid carriers of the written word—and the smell of the printed word is one that should be bottled.

Published in: on March 24, 2015 at 3:31 am  Comments (28)  
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