Life is Not Pure Bliss-But Surviving Is

Happy Birthday

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I find I cannot do this post justice today as there are so many emotions that bubble to the surface, but I still felt I had to commemorate the day:

Twenty-seven years ago today I welcomed my first-born son into the world. Welcomed though is such a calm and happy word and in this context it does not tell the whole story.

Adam was born 11 weeks prematurely. He was obviously in a rush to come into this world, but in his rush, I did not get to hold him for at least a month after he was born. I visited him in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for those four weeks, and was only able to touch him through the holes of his incubator. And then it was only to brush a finger along his tiny arm, or touch his leg ever so lightly. I decorated his incubator with cards and cut-outs and little stuffed animals.  My mom knit him the tiniest of hats and booties to wear with his cut in half diaper (whole diapers were huge for his 2 pound 5 ½ ounce little body).

So many memories—some frightening, some wonderful—but the end result is that today he is a healthy thriving 27 years old. A basketball player, a musician, a reader, a boyfriend to a lovely girl/woman, a man with so much potential—and it is potential he will reach and surpass.

Of course, I am his mother, and I am proud of him. I remember the journey to get here—and though life is not pure bliss—having survived and come through to tell this happy story today is.

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  1. Lou Ann, what a beautiful story — you have touched my heart, made me feel so good, blessed and the love you have for your son — well, my friend — that is indeed bliss. Happy Birthday to Lou Ann boy child and many, many more!!! Have a wonderful weekend, Lou Ann.

    • Thank you Brigitte — I am glad you enjoyed it and are happy along with me — I had no maternal instincts until this guy was born, then they kicked in with a vengeance

  2. Aw….happy birthday to Adam. He’s lucky to have such a special mom!!

  3. Awww… that was lovely. Happy birthday to your son! And here’s for many more years to come. He’s lucky to have such a proud mum. 🙂

  4. Of all the “blissful” posts you have shared, this has got to be the most blissful moment….
    Happy Birthday to everyone!

  5. Bliss bubbles on top, LouAnn. You did it justice! Happy birthday, to you and Adam! xoxoM

  6. How amazing! Life often turns out beautiful for those who are grateful. Best wishes for an even better future.
    Many cheers to him! -Tc.

  7. Happy Birthday, Adam, if you’re reading this. What a beautiful story for both of you, really. He came into this world with so much love and care and concern and now he is a wonderful man. It’s a miracle. It would be hard not to think about that day and time and attach it to the fear you felt for his future. That’s when mothers live minute by minute and hour by hour…
    I’m so happy it all turned out! God must have had good things in store for him 🙂
    Lisa xoxoxox

    • Lisa – what a lovely response–yes, I think God has good things in store for him–he had a rocky start and you are right, moms live moment to moment and this time it worked beautifully

  8. Happy 27th bday to your son Adam. May he be blessed with many more to come…

    • Thank you Rosy — I am going to have him read this and all the wonderful responses

  9. Aw! That is so sweet!! I’m sure it will make your young lad blush from ear to ear!!

  10. I hope he has a great birthday and shares a moment or two of it with you.

  11. Happy birthday to your son and what a story. I can’t even imagine not being able to hold my child immediately after birth, what a heartbreaking time you went through.

    • it was hard, my youngest son was also born prematurely–but he was only 9 weeks early and 3.5 lbs

      • I’m really happy things turned out well for you and them.

      • thank you – we were blessed

  12. Wow. 2 pounds, 5 ounces? Wow. Happy Birthday Lou Ann’s son, the miracle baby!

    • I will tell him – or better yet, let him read this -Thanks Robin!

      • He will love what you wrote about him.

      • thanks Robin — I ran it off and gave it to him

    • 2 pound 5 and a half ounces, that half was so important then (;lol)

  13. Happy Birthday to your son! Those must have been scary weeks right after his birth. I’ll bet you remember his homecoming day to the tiniest detail.

  14. A beautiful, heartwarming story. Even though there were struggles and difficulties, being able to look back at how they were overcome makes the story even sweeter, in my opinion. Wishing a very happy birthday to your son. 🙂

    • thank you — you are right — it was difficult at the time–but we have so many good memories

  15. I’ll never forget that call when Adam was born….2lbs. 5oz. of feistiness! Love to Adam from all of us.

  16. You are always welcome! 🙂

  17. Congratulations to you both… childbirth is women’s greatest and most unforgettable challenge, I always feel, and yours was truly memorable…what anguish not to be able to hold him for so long….
    and now you’re both laughing!

  18. Wow. My son shares your son’s birthday and it is one of the hardest days of my year. Also very premature, we did 29 days of very little touching in the NICU. He didn’t make it. Still hard after ten years, but I loved hearing your story because it was a timely reminder that wonderful miracles DO happen everytime a baby is born. So wish your big little son a happy birthday for me. He’s your hard earned miracle, and your story made me feel a whole lot better today.

    • I am so glad that my story made you feel better — I am sooooo sorry about your son–it was touch and go for much of the first four weeks, fortunately we were lucky–and it was a miracle; your little miracle is your own personal angel

  19. Sad and glad reading this post. Sad that you couldn’t hold your wee babe and had to touch him through incubators. Glad that you all survived and that he’s doing so well today. Thinking it’s neat that we both have a 27 year old…

    • seems like yesterday doesn’t it? I got my motherhood start late–I was 32 when Adam was born

  20. Sorry I am late commenting, but boy did you ever choke me up with this one. I am always amazed at how much you and I have in common – I, too, remember sitting beside the incubator wanting so much to hold my son. I’m so glad that everything worked out and that your son is now a healthy and happy adult. Happy Birthday to him – sounds like you did a great job Mom :).

    • I know, I thought the same thing the other day when I was reading about your first few weeks with your son–we made it through beautifully didn’t we?

  21. What a beautiful story, hit my heart. happy Birthday to him and Blessing and Happiness to you all, Thanks and Love, nia

  22. Happy Birthday to your son! Isn’t it wonderful to see what a splendid man he’s become after such a scary beginning?! Congratulations to you and your husband on doing a great job…you have a lot to be proud of. He sounds like a credit to you both! ~ Sheila

    • well we finished off the birthday festivities last night with a chili and chocolate cake dinner (his choice)

  23. Awwwww 🙂

    My eldest turns 25 this week! Gawd I feel old lol


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