~L is for Love This Idea~ Or R U OK? DAY

Conversation

Conversation (Photo credit: Rohit Rath)

I love this idea. The Idea that people care—that when they ask are you okay, they are not just saying “how are you” in that dismissive way that does not really want an answer.

I took this next section from subtlekate.wordpress.com—but I know she would not mind—so give her credit for this:

“R U OK Day is the day set aside to inspire all people of all backgrounds to regularly ask each other ‘Are you ok?’ It’s also the day when instead of replying “fine, sure, doing great,” you take a moment and answer honestly and you have a conversation about how you’re really doing. The foundation aims to prevent isolation by empowering people to support each other through life’s ups and downs.

So let me ask you, R U OK?”

Well, Subtle Kate, thank you for asking. And today, when I ask someone how they are doing, I am going to listen to what they say and not just walk by them quickly leaving them with a fleeting smile and no time to hear their answer.

Sometimes we are not okay, and we need to have a conversation. When people have taken the time to listen to me–I mean really listen, I am left with the feeling that there is compassion in the world, and that I can go on and make a difference myself.

I am sure we have all had people ask us how we are, then not wait for an answer and go into a dissertation about all their problems. I don’t mind listening, but neither do I want to be looked on as only a sounding board. I think that is how we separate our real friends from those who just pose as our friends—those who pause to listen, and those to whom we pause and listen.

Conversation really can make a difference, and as R U OK? DAY states: it “could save a life”.


Published in: on September 13, 2012 at 10:08 am  Comments (59)  
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