Okay, I know M is not for Bond, James Bond—but I have always liked the way he introduced himself. I wonder if I could make such an outstandingly memorable introduction of myself. I am almost apologetic about my name. Not that I do not like it—just that my name is sort of long and then I added my husband’s last name to it, with a hyphen no less.
I was quite adamant about keeping my name when I got married – after all it was my name and I was attached to it. Not all people feel this way, but I did, and I still do. It is just my personal statement and I do not in any way want to make a decision for anyone else.
When I was married thirty years ago, I was not a rebel–there were many women who kept their names, added their husband’s name to theirs, or hyphenated. And there were many then, as now, who take on their husband’s name. It is all a personal choice. But as a choice I think it should be respected.
There are still those who call me Mrs. My Husband’s Last Name, and that is okay, though I always think they are referring to his mother. But then there are those who do it to bug me, to kind of put me “in my place”. And those are the people I do not readily respond to. When I do respond, I do it with a surprised look, and say “Oh, are you talking to me?” Admittedly this does not happen much now—but it happened a lot when I was first married.
Many people, when they have a name as long as mine, have come up with a signature scrawl to compensate for the length. I have not—though many times I will use my initials when I can get away with it. That does not work at the bank or on legal documents though, and I have detected a yawn or two while I finish scribbling my name.
For a while I thought I was being clever and started to use partial initials and part of my last name as a reporter to kind of hide my identity. I work for a small town newspaper and I thought this would hide me from controversial stuff—but generally there is not much controversial stuff, and it fools no one anyway. My column carries my full name—but perhaps this is where I really need to hide my identity. Especially this week, when I made both a spelling mistake and error in grammar.
But I digress—I like my full last name—it is kind of distinctive, albeit lengthy.